unfit: Unlearning People-Pleasing & Self-Erasure
A liberation lab for freeing the parts of you that tried to fit in –– but probably never wanted to.
The UNschool is now in session:
May 29 through August 21st.
You’ve been adaptable.
You’ve been agreeable.
You learned early how to soften your voice, shrink your brilliance, hide your weirdness — just to fit into rooms that never really saw you.
You’ve survived by fitting.
And still, you catch yourself wondering:
Why do I say yes when I mean no?
Why do I shrink or translate myself just to be understood?
Why does “belonging” still feel like disappearing?
What would it mean to stop contorting, and start coming home to myself?
That’s where we pick things up. Now it’s time to UNfit — wildly, fully, without apology.
UNFIT is not a class. It’s a refusal.
This is a funky, messy, liberatory space to stop performing your survival —
and start practicing your selfhood.
Each class is a double move:
- Excavation: Healing the ache of not belonging — the internalized shame, the self-betrayal, the moments you disappeared yourself to feel safe.
- Expression: Learning how to get even weirder, wilder, queerer, louder, softer, more nonlinear, more emotional, more contradictory, more YOU — on purpose.
This is for you if:
- You’re exhausted by people-pleasing, perfectionism, and performing “normal”
- You’re done asking permission to take up space
- You’re craving a life where difference isn’t tolerated — it’s celebrated
- You want belonging that doesn’t require betrayal
- You’re ready to be UNfit — beautifully, radically, and without apology
What We’ll Actually Do:
This is a 10-week liberation lab for the parts of you that learned to hide/contort/adjust to please others.
Every week, we’ll work with a provocative, dangerous question.
We’ll excavate the stories and systems that shaped you —
and practice expressing the self you buried underneath.
You’ll leave with:
- Healing for the wounds of unbelonging, invisibility, and too-muchness
- Practices for living your divergence, not performing someone else’s expectations
- Tools for saying no, staying weird, staying true — even when it’s uncomfortable
- Your personal Divergence Doctrine: a living document of your enoughness, wildness, and uncontainability
What It Looks Like:
- 10 live, raw, liberatory gatherings (yes, on Zoom — but it won’t feel like Zoom school)
- Weekly divergence practices (small, bold, designed to make you more you)
- Optional writing prompts, ritual ideas, and embodied experiments
You don’t need to be queer, weird, or unconventional to be here —
But this space is queer.
In its logic.
In its defiance of easy categories.
In its love of contradiction.
This isn’t about being easier to love. It’s about becoming impossible to flatten.
Come because you’re tired of shape-shifting. Stay because you’re ready to take up your full, unedited, holy shape.
This won’t be safe. It will be sacred. Let’s remember how to unfit — together.
Our Syllabus: A 10-week descent into your untamed wanting.
I know the UNschool tuition, time investment, and/or timing can be inaccessible for some folks. So: here’s our syllabus, both so you can see what we’ll be digging into if you participate, but also so you can create your own free course for yourself if you are unable attend with us.
We’ll connect all of these sessions to systems and to liberatory practices:
- Where have you betrayed yourself just to fit in?
- What would you have to grieve if you stopped chasing enoughness?
- When did people-pleasing become your price of survival — and are you still willing to pay it?
- What parts of yourself did you exile in order to seem “normal”?
- Which inherited story about you needs to burn so you can be free?
- What if your weirdness was never a liability — but a language?
- Where have you mistaken being wrong for being alive?
- What does real belonging — belonging without self-betrayal — actually demand from you?
- How do you keep choosing divergence when fitting in would be easier?
- Who are you when you stop translating yourself for other people?
The Deets
The current UNschool semester begins May 29th and concludes August 21st. UNfit will have sessions most Thursdays from 3:00-4:00pm EST.
Applications for the current term close Sunday May 11th at 11:59pm. Seats for this semester are limited.
Your UNschooling tuition (which includes private one to one coaching) is $297 per month. A semester is three months ($891 total).
This semester only, if you’d like to participate in BOTH UNschool courses (check out UNf*ck here), you can take advantage of a significant tuition discount: $1399 ($699 per course vs. $891; nearly $400 off your tuition).
You can experience the UNschool RISK FREE. Come to your first class. Experience your first coaching session. If for any reason you decide it’s not the UNschool for you, you can email us and we’ll refund you immediately. No justification needed. No questions asked.
To learn more about UNschool, generally, and to read through FAQs, click here.
(UN)learning that changes your life.
applications are not currently open.
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